Also, he owes me dinner.Michael Davie in 'Going from A to Z forever' (an article on the 2nd edition of the Oxford English Dictionary), Age, Saturday Extra, 1 April 1989, writes of his visit to the dictionary section of Oxford University Press:īefore I left, Weiner said he remembered how baffled he had been the first time he heard an Australian talk about the 'arvo'. But any dick who has the audacity to demand women participate in this bullshit little charade lest they offend a man by appearing “entitled” deserves to have his ass dragged to hell and back. If you want to waste your money and what little privilege you’ve been afforded as a woman in this world, then by all means, go off queen. But how other women choose to squander their money and the precious bit of power the patriarchy throws our way is really none of my business. Do I think those women are kind of stupid for not choosing to leverage what little power this bullshit system grants us to their advantage? Yes, yes I do. Now, do I believe that some women genuinely prefer to pay for themselves and find it “empowering” and whatnot? Yes, certainly. A sincere thank you, in my opinion, far outweighs a performative wallet reach in terms of demonstrating appreciation and modesty. For example, you could thank someone for paying.
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But there are other, and arguably better, ways to express gratitude and humility than by practicing the transparent pageantry of the faux wallet grab. Being the self-serving opportunist that I am, I certainly understand that you catch more flies by not acting like an entitled bitch. That said, I do see Lee’s point about the value of demonstrating basic courtesy by at least pretending to pay. I live in a sexist hellscape in which my value as a human being - particularly to the opposite sex - is measured almost entirely by my adherence to impossible standards of youth and beauty. I’m not pretending this is some kind of feminist rallying cry, but merely a measured and practical response to being born into a society in which the deck was stacked against me from birth. Many would probably also agree, or at least be willing to concede, that he should have paid given the power imbalance inherent in our age and income disparity. Regardless of your general opinion on the “who should pay” question, many people would probably agree that the awkward encounter with the 37-year-old I described above was, at best, a bad look for the guy involved. This is a luxury I’ve been afforded, in part, because I have actively chosen to put myself in situations in which the expectation that a man pay is a reasonable one - e.g., sugar dating arrangements or other dynamics in which a significant age and income gap is present. (And not just the first one, mind you.) And no, I won’t even pretend to offer to pay anymore. It should come as no surprise that I am the kind of “entitled” woman who does, in fact, expect a man to pay for a date.
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Rather, Lee says men should pay as a “litmus test” to see whether or not their date is best litmus test #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #firstdateadvice #marriageadvice #lawyer #lawyersoftiktok ♬ original sound – Breakup Lawyer Justin Lee isn’t concerned about chivalry or old-fashioned values or any such nonsense. According to Lee, the man should always pay for a first date - but not for any of the reasons you may think. I bring this up because the age-old etiquette question of who should pay for a date has once again reared its tired head thanks to a recent TikTok in which Toronto-based divorce lawyer Justin Lee gives his take. That was the first and last time I ever paid for anything on a date, and I have since dispensed with even performing the faux wallet grab.
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I, a broke undergrad who was in no way expecting to have to pay for my own meal on a first date with a man 16 years my senior, then had to awkwardly transfer money from my savings account to my checking account just to cover my portion of the bill.
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The last time I pretended to offer to pay for a date was four years ago when I, a 21-year-old college student on a first date with a 37-year-old man, reached for my wallet as a performative gesture, and he didn’t stop me.